The prepare/enrich relationship assessment has empowered and energized millions of couples and is considered the #1 relationship inventory and couples assessment tool:
Premarital Counseling- Premarital counseling is a form of therapy that occurs before marriage. Typically, premarital counselors will ask couples to dig deep and revisit previous impressions they have formed about marriage prior to tying the knot ( Brides Website). Counseling helps couples understand and define the issues of a combined journey they need to undertake together. Important areas to address before marriage (Jilian Kramer)
Define your marriage expectations and role beliefs- In marriage counseling, you'll uncover what each party believes and have experienced about the structure of marriage.
Analyze how your past affects your future- We are all products of our environment and experiences. The couple should talk through their backgrounds because of transference, (transfer qualities and re-create dynamics from old relationships into new ones) and this is usually unconscious. Talking about them allows people to make more conscious, healthy choices, and relate in healthier ways.
Develop a plan for resolving conflicts- In marriage counseling, you'll work with a therapist to foster communication and conflict resolution skills you can carry with you. A couple that cannot freely discuss any subject, no matter how personal or difficult, is an indicator for a marriage set for struggles.
Other areas to address: Individual SWOT ( Strengths, Weakness, Opportunity, and Threats) analysis (Level of baggage); susceptibility to stress and skills to manage; pre-existing medical and mental health conditions, exploring the family trees in reference to obvious conditions; on ongoing and pending financial obligations; and personality traits among others
Premarital Counseling ( Doares Relationship Expert)
Get real about money-We all know that money has a way of ruining marriages because of its secrets and shames. Therefore to prevent future financial fights, couples should lay out all their money thoughts, story, past and present financial history, common future goals, and intentions during premarital counseling.
Speak about sex- Intimacy is highly personal, and most couples run into intimacy issues at some point in the marriage, it may not be a comfortable topic before a stranger; but it must be discussed in order to promote more understanding.
Talk about talking-Open and direct communications are key ingredients in any union, especially if you and your partner have different ways of communicating or cultures. Premarital counseling will be advantageous in helping you discover your styles and how they could affect your marriage. The couple will also learn transition and change management strategies like compromise, adapting, adopting, or transforming to fit in the new normal.
Discuss your feelings on children- many couples never really talk about having children, how many, in what intervals, family planning, naming, parenting styles, extended family involvement, and cultural practices involving childbirth and parenting.
Project Marriage - Marriage is like a project it deserves due diligence in setting common goals, objectives, strategies/ plans, and rewarding mechanisms. Communication facilities frequent review meetings where progress report is shared and feedback provided. Money is the basis of the project implementation and therefore a budget projection, management expenditures, and accountability are key virtues.
Share with a Counsellor- will be your program manager, to coordinate the marriage team (Couple) at the designing and planning phase (Marriage) and possibly provide them with skills to implement the project ( actual marriage life). Share with a Counsellor is available in the mobile phone of all parties to call and seek direction in the journey of life at the convenience of their space. Our Marriage Counsellors will contact relationship assessment and help couples join the marriage institution with viable coping skills, and when they run out of resources the therapist will be available to provide more as their personal mentor any time anywhere. No marriage should fail.
